There are two ways to look at how we fit into the world scheme of things. We are either at the mercy of circumstance and victims or we are co-creators. If we are at the mercy of circumstance, our lives are limited by what happens to us. We must live in fear of the next shoe dropping. If we are co-creators, we may not always see the whole picture but we can take the steps necessary to create lives that are unlimited, meaningful and happy. Continue reading » »
When I was growing up, both my parents smoked. I also spent my most formative years breathing the smog-choked air of Los Angeles County. Come to think of it, I had a boyfriend or two who was addicted to nicotine in the days when most people didn’t think much of it.
On the other hand, I never smoked myself. Well, that’s not quite true. I do remember the time when I snuck into my parent’s bedroom to see what all this smoking fuss was about. Being a naïve 10-year-old, I didn’t stop to think that my father might walk in, which he did. Somehow I have a memory of my contorting my never-to-be-nicotine-stained hand behind my back to hide my sin only to realize that the smoke from the cigarette was wafting straight up my spine creating, much to my father’s surprise, the incongruous image of my hair being on fire. Yes, I got caught.
Taking all that into consideration, am I predisposed to lung cancer? How at risk am I for emphysema? It’s hard to say, but clearly I am at greater risk than those whose parents did not smoke or who grew up breathing the pristine air of an offshore island.
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Letter to editor SJ Mercury News re: article published Jan 25, 2010. “Kudos to AMC Cupertino Square 16 for giving autistic kids and parents an opportunity to enjoy watching movies. You set a great example of how to appropriately alter rules (let them talk during the movie, stand up, even touch the screen) to create an environment that lets people bring their whole self to what they do and not be “shushed” by “that’s not the way we do it around here.”
By designating a time and place that accommodates kids with different styles of communicating and interacting with their environment, you earned my Class Act Award. I’m sending the article to the leaders I coach with a note reading:
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While I was pursuing my MBA, I was assigned to give a 30 minute presentation on my business. I remember feeling an internal conflict brewing as I prepared my remarks. I was just becoming aware of how annoyed I feel when I am defined by what I do. I wanted people to know who I am, and it frustrated me to think that my identity was so firmly connected with what I did for a living. This assignment would only add to that definition so I decided to break the mold.
Instead of sharing the normal statistics of our company, i.e., number of employees, gross and net revenues, years in business and our plan to achieve global domination in our marketplace, I decided to relate the defining moments of my professional life and how they molded and shaped my career. I wanted my cohorts to see me as a person, so I shared the highs and lows that contributed to my successes and failures.
MBA classrooms are not known for their warm and fuzzy experiences. They are generally associated with hard facts, controlled emotions and crisp conversations. My presentation was shaping up to be an emotionally intelligent, but soft skilled approach. I felt exposed and vulnerable as I began my talk. Despite my hesitation, I shared my story, hoping it would some how resonate with my classmates. Continue reading » »
Rupert Murdoch, the Chairman and CEO of Newscorp, is a titan. Yes, that’s the term that people use very loosely when they describe people who head media companies, but doesn’t Murdoch seem as though he would be a titan no matter what he did? I can picture Rupert Murdoch coaching Little League, working as a janitor, or participating in a knitting class – and I still think he’d come across like a titan. The man has a ruthless, tough, incredibly aggressive and success-driven persona which seems like a force of nature akin to a hurricane or volcano eruption.He created one of the largest and most successful media conglomerates in the world; rules it like Augustus once ran the Roman Empire; and maintains an iron grip on power despite the fact that he is at an age when most CEOs are playing shuffle board or chasing after their nurses.
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